Even though Heraclitus was a philosopher from Ancient Greece that lived from 535 BC to 475 BC, he understood that the only constant in this world is change itself. Whether you want it to or not, the earth will continue to spin, and life will go on. But if we’ve known this fact forever, then why are people always still so resistant to changes in their lives? Well, there are many reasons; some of them include being comfortable where you’re at, nervous about facing the next chapter, or scared about where your new path might take you (to name a few). And while you can’t stop change, you can learn to integrate strategies to better deal with it and even embrace it. So, today, let’s look at 5 tips for dealing with change so that you may fire your old self to create your new, best self and love the life you live.
None of us like to hear it, but the truth is that change is inevitable. Just like Heraclitus pointed out thousands of years ago, things will continue to evolve and change, whether we decide to evolve and change with them or not. So, one thing we can do to deal with change is to prepare ourselves when we know there is something new coming our way. Personally, I’m not too fond of change. But once I was able to acknowledge that it’s coming no matter what I do, I allowed myself to think about it differently and move forward in a productive way. Remember that resistance to change is normal and expected because our bodies want to stay at homeostasis for as long as possible. However, you’ll never be able to ‘level up’ to the next stage in your life if you cannot ultimately embrace the cycle of change. It can be a hard pill to swallow, but once you know that change is inevitable, you can begin to live in a new way that acknowledges this inevitability while still living in the moment. That’s why striking a balance of planning ahead yet living in the moment is so critical. You can prepare yourself for the future while also enjoying the present to the fullest, helping you become your best self and live your best life.
Once you understand that change is inevitable, it becomes much easier to reframe your thinking about the evolution that you will ultimately experience in your life. When you begin the journey of reframing your thinking, try and let go of what you can’t control. We always like to stress about things outside of our reach (at least I do!), but what if we just focused on what we can control. Not only focus on what you can control but ask yourself genuinely: What’s the worst that could happen? Usually, the worst thing that could happen is not, in fact, terrible like we’ve convinced ourselves it is. Obviously, there are instances where the worst-case scenario is not a great outcome (that’s why it’s called a worst-case scenario), but at the same time, maybe that opportunity just wasn’t meant for you in the end. A tactic that helps me when I’m struggling with reframing my thinking is to find humor in the situation. Of course, sometimes this is harder than others to do, but it helps you take things less seriously so that you can ultimately deal with the changes more easily. By actively working to reframe your thinking when it comes to addressing change, you can truly begin to fire your old self to create your new, best self so that you can love the life you live.
Beyond reframing your mindset, a critical aspect of embracing change is to celebrate the positives. Sometimes this may be easier than others to do, but it’s about finding the silver lining in any situation. Having a silver lining mindset is something you need to cultivate over time, especially if you’re like me, who falls into being a Negative Nelly very easily. If you’re like me, the best advice I have is to find one aspect of the situation, no matter how small, that is positive and try to focus your energies on that. For example, every time I hear ‘no’ as a freelancer, there’s a part of me that feels inadequate or like I did something wrong, but there’s a bigger part of me that knows everything happens for a reason. In other words, keep in mind that sometimes the opportunities we miss out on are the ones that were never meant for us anyway, and that can be a positive within itself. Don’t fall into the trap of FOMO (fear of missing out) because, like I keep saying, the things that are meant for you will find you one way or another. Ultimately, by celebrating the positives, you are actively training your brain to be in the moment and look for those silver linings so that you may mold yourself into the best version of yourself and live your best life.
If you’re undergoing change and finding it hard to cope with, remember that it’s essential to take care of yourself first. If possible, try to maintain some of your routines that make you feel good in order to create some comfort during this period of change. For example, if you stick to a workout regimen, don’t drop it just because you’ve moved houses, got a new job, or something else happens that is a big life change. Make a conscious decision to keep the routine up since you know it will make you feel better and keep you aligned with your true self. Another thing that is extremely important, yet very challenging is don’t stress out about stressing out. Read that one more time. DON’T STRESS OUT ABOUT STRESSING OUT. Managing your stress and taking care of yourself are probably the most critical things to do when you’re going through changes in your life. And there’s no need to add more stress on top of the stress you’re already feeling. By taking care of yourself adequately, you can help to reduce the stress your body is feeling and become more adjusted to the changes so that you may fire your old self to create your new, best self.
When it comes to managing stress and dealing with change, sometimes the best thing to do is to seek support. We can only do so much on our own without outside tools or guidance to support us. So, if you’re facing a big life change, consider speaking with your friends and family about it. They know you well enough to help, and even if they don’t have great advice, sometimes all it takes is a supportive listening ear to make you feel better. If you’re not able to get the emotional support or encouragement you’re looking for from your friends and family, consider seeking professional help. Although many people are resistant to speaking with a therapist, the stigma around reaching out for help is becoming increasingly smaller these days, and you need to remember that reaching out does not show weakness but rather strength. Plus, you might even find that your friends or family are too close to the situation, and seeking professional help gives you a level of clarity you might otherwise not have achieved. Change is difficult, but when you ask for help, you’re actively taking a step towards managing your stress so that you may mold yourself into the best version of yourself and live your best life.
For many people, change is synonymous with stress, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Once you begin to accept that change is inevitable, you can start to reframe your thinking and learn to celebrate the positives. Every situation has a silver lining, and if you can’t find it, you might just have to look closer. Teach yourself to believe that every time you hear ‘no’ or face a roadblock it’s simply redirecting you onto the path that’s truly meant for you. When dealing with these changes in your life, remember to always take care of yourself first. Stick to the regiments and routines you’ve created because they will help you feel like your best self even throughout the new experiences you’ll have. Lastly, never feel ashamed about reaching out and asking for help. Seeking support is one of the best ways to show yourself love and care while also working through some of the issues popping up by these new changes. Ultimately, integrating these 5 tips for dealing with change will help you embrace the future so that you may truly fire your old self to create your new, best self while remembering Life’s Short, Love the Life You Live!